My Dad

recently, my relationship with my dad has changed. i didn't notice it happening at first. it was gradual. we used to go head-to-head, neither one of us willing to back down, insisting that our opinions were right, and determined to believe we were not at all the same. the truth is that we are not the same, but we are very, very much alike. a fact i am very proud of. now our similarities help us understand each other and our differences let us learn from each other. we don't always agree or see eye-to-eye but we love and support each other...and disagreement has become ok. in fact, i often enjoy that we have differing viewpoints. and we are working to express and communicate them in better, more gentle, and more clear ways.
one of the best things about my dad is his giant heart! that man has a heart of gold and as soft as my favorite teddy bear. he really loves people. he is sensitive to spiritual things and to the sacrifices that others offer in the name of love. one of our favorite movies is "the inn of the sixth happiness." this is a perfect example of the selfless love and service that he values so dearly, and it makes us both cry every time we watch it. his heart, like mine, immediately connects with things that are good and noble and courageous. he truly is a warrior for goodness and truth in so many ways.
my dad loves books...another trait he passed on to me. thrilled by learning and knowledge, he inspired me to seek it too. there is power in knowledge, but more powering in using your knowledge to help and lift others.
he is the most thoughtful person i have ever met. he is genuinely and naturally aware of and concerned about the needs and desires of those around him. but more importantly, he doesn't just notice those needs; he acts. he often goes out of his way to do thoughtful, kind things for others....a phone call, a note, particular interest in things that are important to you, or even just your favorite candy bar...he wants you to know he loves you and notices you. an unsung hero in many ways, i am so grateful to have him in my life.